How To Take Life Just A Tad Less Seriously

RO DBT Novel Skill

“Take it easy”. “Lighten up”. Easier said than done, am I right? Fortunately, Radically Open DBT (RO DBT) teaches us that with just a little bit of practice, we can all learn how to be silly and have fun. And we certainly need some fun now more than ever! So let’s look at how we can do this through the use of RO DBT novel behavior skills.

Why incorporate novelty or new/different experiences into our lives?

The reality is that there is no shortage of things to be serious about these days. What we know is that by incorporating moments of fun and play, we increase opportunities for new learning and connection with others. All of this contributes to improved psychological outcomes, so why not give it a try!

Try something “novel” or different to your life every day

There are very small ways that you can change up your routines, especially those that are rigid, each day. Walk a different way to work, wear primary colors instead of your usual neutrals, listen to a completely different playlist, wear bright lipstick, put on some fun patterned socks, or rock a cool tie. Notice how trying something a bit differently can put a little extra pep in your step!


Do you always eat the same exact thing every day for every meal? Change it up by adding some flavor to your food. Try a new cuisine. Add some fun-flavored coffee creamer to your usual black coffee. Ask your friends for their favorite recipe and make it for yourself! Try something you’ve never had before. The same ole same ole can certainly feel safe but it sure can feel boring. Try something new and be open to what you might come to really enjoy!

Things to look out for

Notice if your idea of play involves doing things that are competitive in nature or have some sort of self-improvement outcome. The idea here is to engage in activities that are enjoyable and fun, without preparation. Notice if you will only allow yourself to have fun if you’ve completed all other tasks for the day. Give yourself permission to try something new without contingencies. And remember, have fun!

Article written by Abby Brown, PsyD

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